I had lunch with a new friend yesterday.
We had met a while back, then sat near each other at a wedding reception, and I invited him to my birthday party.
He couldn’t make the party, so we planned to have lunch “soon.”
It took us six weeks.
My calendar was pretty full with travel. We both forgot the first appointment we’d made. And his wife was about to go into labor so it was tentative that yesterday would work—we almost got pushed back who knows how many months.
I lamented aloud how hard it seems to be to make friends or even just to see your closest friends. Everyone’s busy. Work hours stretch longer. There are home improvement projects. We all need some downtime. And once the kids arrive…
Do we no longer have time for friendship? (Click to tweet this.)
If we’re honest, though, I wonder if the problem isn’t the really one of these important reasons we always cite. Maybe it’s catching up on Breaking Bad and seeing what our friends have been posting on Instagram. (Don’t get me wrong—on Sunday, I posted four images and a video on Instagram.)
My schedule needs a laxative. (Click to tweet this.)
Last Friday, I fell into some hockey tickets and called/texted about 20 friends. This took time, and it was short notice, so my hopes weren’t all that high. I did find another newer friend to go, finalizing it less than an hour before the puck dropped. Granted, it was short notice all around…
But are only 5% of us free to hang out with a friend on a Friday?
One was just back from a work trip. One was in Seattle. One had a church thing. One was sick. One had a family party. And the list goes on, all good stuff.
Let me be clear—I’m as guilty as the next guy. My calendar is full this week Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday nights. But at what cost?
I have tons of friends in town, really great guys, from our neighborhood, other parents of our kids’ friends, from work, from college, from church, even one from elementary school.
But I hardly ever see them. No one just stops in. It’s hard to connect.
What are we doing wrong? (Leave a comment here.)